Where’s my authenticity?

I am authentic

I am authentic
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With no concern for my authenticity, I read Michael Gelb’s How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci in 1998, 20 years ago. Curiosita is the first of the seven principles that generated Leonardo da Vinci’s genius. It obviously means curiosity.

One of Gelb’s book’s exercises is to stretch (and test) one’s curiosita by listing 100 questions…100 life questions.

That challenge—and with it a prayer for stamina and patience—just to discover 100 questions may seem like enough for this post. I assure you asking 100 life questions is easier than you might expect. Once you have written 5-10 questions, you they start coming to you faster, easier, and with a rewarding sense of aha!

The real challenge is answering the questions. That rang especially true for me just this week. I discovered my several lists of 100 curiosita questions in a 1998 journal I was reading this weekend. I did not find an answer to a single question in the journal.

Now, 20 years down the road, many of the questions my life itself has answered. Or made irrelevant. Yet, several—quite a few—are still unanswered, and there’s no question about their relevance.

I am not suggesting you would ask the same life questions. Nor do I assume you haven’t answered them if you did ask them. I do know I have found delightful peace and comfort in approaching these 20-year-old questions after a  little bit of prayer.

So I’ll share my actual experience. Perhaps you’ll find some value*.

In Search of Authenticity

Spirit-without-Question, 20 years ago
I consciously asked, “What can I do to know
I am always being true and authentic to myself?”
I’m thinking my discovering the question
in a journal I wrote but don’t remember
is a push to answer that question.
Now seems a good time for me to answer.
Or at least to start answering. Or trying to answer
And of course I want your help.
I want the answer and I know it is better that I find it myself.
So I am not asking you to give me the answer.
I am telling you instead I want your guidance
in my finding the answer.
That guidance may just be assurance
that I can find the answer if I only look
That assurance may be the gentle reminder
of the Love I know is your Truth.

That reminder is that I am always certain
I am of your Truth, of your creation.
That certainty affirms my true, authentic being.

Awesome! Thank you, Spirit! Amen!

Love & blessings,

Tim

August 28, 2018

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Praying Made Easy. 15. To Release Resentment.

Release Resentment

Release Resentment
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The reason to release resentment is simple. It does no good to hold onto resentment of someone else’s words or actions. Some have told me that resentment is a strong motivator. The desire to get even can be a powerful impulse.

You harbor resentment, and you become its slave. Buddha put it best: “Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.”

Psychologists have a lot to say about resentment. Here are a couple of handy, easy-reads if you are curious.

And here is my nutshell version of resentment’s price:

I am not resentment-proof. I have long looked for a set of tools to help release my resentment. Consider these, please:

  1. Commit to do no harm to others…although resentment may want you to.
  2. Stand in your resentment pain…to make #1 easier.
  3. See the inner Being of whoever you feel caused your resentment.
  4. Realize you allowed the resentment more than they caused it.
  5. Forgive. Give forgiveness. Give forgiveness for your resentment’s release.

Praying to Release Resentment

Guiding Spirit,
I am blessed by your leading me
to not cause pain to others.
When I feel pain, you remind me
that if I stand in my pain I will not share it.
You let me know our Oneness, mine with every other being.
So I release myself to know my human mind sources my resentment.
These blessings bring me to forgive,
to give up and release my unreal need to feel resentment.
I then am able to forgive at will, with joy.
Guiding Spirit, your presence allows me
to be glad that I replace resentment with Love
from which we are created.
So it is and so I thank you, God. Amen.

Love and blessings,
Tim
28 March 2018

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Praying Made Easy. 14. To Release Judgment.

To release judgment

To release judgment…
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How hard is it to release judgment? I know it can be a major task. Whether judgment of an individual, of an event, of what someone says or does, of a group of people. The list can go on and on and on.

it Iis one thing to make and hold a judgment and subsequently to release it, to let it go. Sounds and feels a lot like forgiveness. No reason to split hairs. To release judgment of a specific instance brings blessings all their own. Peace. Forgiveness. Joy. Comfort. This list, too, can go on and on.

So let’s consider the effort to release judgment as a practice or a habit or an approach to life. Because letting go of judgment and not having to do it time after time is a good deal. I’m talking about a proactive effort to let go of judgment from the get-go. Maybe a good analogy is from my quitting smoking 40 years ago. Seems like a simple choice between stubbing out the current cigarette versus giving up smoking full time. Seems the latter is better and in the long run has a higher return.

Please note. The attention here is to judgment that relates to blame, ill-will, feelings of superiority and/or negativity. That is distinct from discernment, which is essential to our daily lives. Which car to buy. Whether to paint the bathroom orange or green. The choice of a doughnut or a bagel for breakfast.

To my way of thinking releasing myself from being judgmental, as it fits changing my behavior, is a 3-step procedure.

  1. Separate the type(s) of judgment you want to discard. Be clear that this is a category you want to release entirely. One example for me is judgment of someone else’s performance. I am not here to score how well others’ do anything.
  2. Now, reflect on a recent few times when you’ve practiced that judgment type (like, when I’ve judged someone’s performance). Recall any feelings you had after making such judgments (feelings I had after thinking I could perform better).
  3. Finally, select or create a phrase–a mantra–to repeat quickly 5 times. Anytime you feel such judgment coming on. My mantra: Not mine to judge. Again: Not mine to judge. Not mine to judge. Then: Not mine to judge. Once more: Not mine to judge.

I am confident if works.

Praying to Release Judgment

Good friend, God,
the joy of forgiveness and the freedom it brings
are bought for the price of judgment.
Your guidance, your grace, and your reminders
enable us to set aside the judgment
that creates our need to forgive.
You guide us to hold in highest consciousness
that we are One.
Your grace fills us with certainty
that we are all of Spirit.
You remind us in unlimited ways
that to judge one another is a wholly human trait
and to know one another as your perfect creation
is a holy trait of the Christ in each of us.
For this we are thankful.
Thankful enough to release judgment
and embrace your love.
And so it is. Amen.

Love and blessings,
Tim

 

 

28 February 2018

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Praying Made Easy. 13. To Forgive Yourself

Forgive Yourself; Let It Go

Forgiving Yourself
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Forgive yourself first, and it’s easier to forgive another. Publius Syrius, a Latin writer, said: “How unhappy is he who cannot forgive himself.” It has to be easier and forgiving someone else from a happy state. Even if we’re not needing to forgive someone else, that happy state’s a better place to be.

Scientific research shows that emotional trauma registers in the body’s nervous system. Your body and my body. That registration then depicts itself with demonstrated emotional responses. Notable and relevant reasons to forgive yourself are guilt, sadness, and limiting beliefs.

When we perform a misdeed that hurts someone, we likely feel guilty. If our behavior is a mistake that costs us some loss, sadness results. To suffer continuous doubt is a limiting belief. All of these are emotional responses demonstrating trauma registered in the body’s nervous system.

Here are two ways to achieve emotional release. This release frees your nervous system. The emotion will have checked out and “left the building.”

  1. Shifting statements (thanks to Abraham-Hicks). This works best with the continuous doubt/limiting beliefs. Consider the emotional expression: “I am always slow getting things done.” Let’s shift that to “Wouldn’t it be nice to get this job done early.” The key is the “Wouldn’t it be nice…” as the opening for your shifted statement. Just keep it true.
  2. Visualize the registered emotions as gone. For someone who is heavily left-brain conscious, this takes practice, practice, practice. it is not logical and it is not verbal, two left-brain characteristics. It is creative and so it is right-brained. See the guilt or sadness or other emotion as an object such as a suitcase or a rocket ship or a flaming arrow. You can see the object going away, launched into outer space, or shot in the air to vanish in its own flames. Something you can see as repeatedly as necessary.

A Prayer to Forgive Yourself

Living, loving God, how wonderful the ability to forgive.
That doesn’t mean it’s always easy.
Releasing everything but certainty
of love and spiritual Oneness
can be a strain and effort.
And so we’re ready and willing to take on ways
to make forgiving others all the easier.
If those ways brings us greater happiness,
so much the better.
With your good guidance, God, we understand
we want to forgive ourselves first.
We want to make the friendly effort
to replace our doubt with “Wouldn’t it be nice…”
or some similar statement all our own.
Powered by creative visioning that comes from you
we see all other feelings as disposable objects.
And we gladly discard them. Let them go.
And so it is, Sweet Spirit, that we forgive ourselves.
And so we let it be, joyfully. Amen.

Love and blessings,
Tim

 

 

19 February 2018

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